Why it is important to let haters win
The world is full of haters — online and in real life. It gets a bit awkward when that hater is someone you care about.
About a week ago, I discovered a guy named Gary Vaynerchuk through a YouTuber that used his #2017FlipChallenge as a spring board for her channel and side hustles.
It’s an interesting premise — make $20,170 flipping things on the internet. All you had to do was buy low and sell high, using price arbitrage as your leverage to make profit. Within the week, I became hooked on the idea.
Naturally, I excitedly told a certain someone (lets call him Billie) about good old Gary from the internet. He on the other hand was not convinced.
Billie began to take the man apart and my every attempt to convince him of Vaynerchuk’s credibility got twisted and turned it into nothing. Rather than being impressed by the back story of growing a $3 million family business to $60 million, he nit picked at the business’ industry and how easy it is to grow such a company.
Billie had some valid points — that the booze industry is a high demand commodity market, making it easy to grow — but I could not fully accept his conclusion that Vaynerchuk’s net worth is not legit.
The more I argued with him, the more I began to realize that there was no winning. He couldn’t see what I saw — that Vaynerchuk is doing something right to get to where he is. My aim was not to replicate his success but use his experience and test out his ideas to get the results I want.
A person that simply cannot be happy for another person’s success. So rather than be happy they make a point of exposing a flaw in that person.
Hating, the result of being a hater, is not exactly jealousy. The hater doesn’t really want to be the person he or she hates, rather the hater wants to knock someone else down a notch. — UrbanDictionary.com
In his desire and nature to prove me wrong with his words, the more I became determined to prove him wrong with my own success. So in that moment, I allowed Billie to win.
I love Billie but he is a pessimist and I suspect my optimism in everything annoys him as much as he annoys me. I am a doer and a risk taker while he would happily sit back and point out the issues.
I could do things Billie’s way and be on the same level as him, or I can try Gary’s way of hustling and climb to the multi-millionaire’s level.
Arguing with him served no purpose for me, nor did it contribute to what I was trying to achieve — and that is to have financial mobility and not be bound by time and physical location.
Billie thinks he’s won because I decided that my journey is not his journey. While he sits back and bask in what I see as an empty victory, I am out and about doing what I think is necessary to get closer to what I want, even if it means listening to Gary Vaynerchuk for motivation.