Reasons why my baby is barely online

To whom it may concern,

This is my choice not to post a million pictures of my baby on Facebook. I am not Kim Kardashian, nor do I feel the need to fulfill your voyeuristic needs.

I choose not to post a million pictures of my baby on Facebook because I want to enjoy her as she is, without side commentaries, without the questions and without the feeling of being constantly watched.

I choose not to post a million pictures of my baby on Facebook because I want to imprint her first years in my memories and not a series of staged and instagramable events. I want to be in the moment with her, uninterrupted, distracted and pressured by the need to take a picture.

I choose not to post a million pictures of my baby on Facebook because I don’t want her to be compared, or looked at by strangers, liked, hearted and emoted at by people I don’t know.

I choose not to post a million pictures of my baby on Facebook because I am not ready — not ready to share her with the world just yet. This is my child, not yours. I don’t need to be told that I need to stop, to pause, to pull out my phone and play paparazzi to my own child.

I choose not to post a million pictures of my baby on Facebook because I’m still trying to figure this new motherhood thing out and how to juggle the demands of life. I am not a stay at home mom. I don’t have 24 hours each day dedicated to my baby. Sometimes it can be overwhelming — a range of emotions mixed into the melting pot that is me. I don’t have the mental capacity to supply to your demands.

I choose not to post a million pictures of my baby on Facebook because I want you to feel special too — that if you’ve received an image or video of her from me, you know that they are exclusive. Only a select few gets to see them. It means that I believe you are worthy enough to be part of my child’s life, to see her grow up, the funny bloopers, the whoopsies blunder and not limited by distance and availability of time.

So if you are one of those people, please have the courtesy not to take the initiative and share her with others yourself without my permission. When I am ready, I will share her in my own time, in my own way and to the people I am comfortable with. You might think it’s alright but I’m her mother — her guardian and this includes her privacy — and I do not consent.

These are some of the reasons why I do not share pictures of my baby on the internet. Respect these reasons or you will be removed — both on Facebook and our world.

Yours sincerely,

Aphinya Dechalert

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