You Need To Architecture The Opportunities You Want
I grew up with a misconception. I’m sure it’s not just me but I was told that if I went to school, if I did all my classes and everything that was expected from me, things will work out in a cookie-cutter manner and I will be happy.
Except it didn’t.
I was in debt with a four-year degree that sounded good on paper but taught me very little in what I actually needed for life.
Well, there are parts of it I don’t regret — but a majority of the courses taken were taken for the wrong reasons. They weren’t taken for me, but rather for the expected pathway that I thought I ought to be walking.
There was a disconnect between listening to ‘adults’ and being an adult. The world that was painted for me was a complete mismatched from the one I experienced.
Sure, I ended up getting a job and stuck with it out of obligation. I climbed the ladder and produced work for others — but I was never really happy about my entire situation.
I always secretly wished for another life. In fact, I secretly wished for a series of opportunities but never didn’t anything in the right direction to attract them.
Over time, I’ve come to learn that random opportunities don’t exist. Rather, they are engineered based on a series of interconnected actions performed prior, leading you to that moment when doors you want just suddenly open.
Taking actions that lead in the right direction
For every action, there is an equal and opposite reactionNewton’s Third Law of Motion
The thing about this concept is that we often apply it subconsciously to our current situations incorrectly. We often think in a disproportionate matter based on our perceived effort.
When we put in the hours and see very little as a result, we think the world is skewed and unfair. When we put in very little and become an overnight success, we either get hit with impostor syndrome or feel that this is the way things should be all the time.
But life and its multiple influencing points are much more complicated than the sum of your perceived output.
Why? Because we forget about a thing called friction.
Sometimes, there’s more friction in one direction than another. The equation for life then becomes the effort required to make movement and the effort required to overcome the friction in order to gain the speed you desire.
Friction can come from multiple sources, including yourself. It may be a missing skillset, an underdeveloped talent, an untested territory, an industry ceiling or expectation, a gender, age, geographic, race, height, weight, hair color, and whatever other potential factors that can come into play.
Friction is unavoidable.
However, acknowledging this friction, figuring it out and working with it as best as you can to reduce its impact or overcome the roadblock it creates, can help move you in the right direction of where you want to go in life.
Transitioning your reality into another
Sometimes, we feel like we can’t get ourselves out of the situation we’re currently in. Or we might feel like we’re tied financially to the current lifestyle our current careers are offering. We might be continuing down our current path not because it makes us happy or gives us a feeling of fulfillment — rather it’s because it feels safe and secure.
Until something happens.
You lose your job. The company shuts down. You get let go because your current department is no longer relevant to the business and its operations.
The feeling of having the thing that makes you unhappy taken away from you can be both scary and liberating at the same time. It wakes you up the reality of life as it is — in a constant state of flux and flows, where it’s just easier to figure out what it is you actually enjoy doing, make the initial sacrifices required to instigate the change and go from there.
Sometimes it might just mean giving up the current lifestyle you have and trade it for one that may be temporarily frugal due to the financial impact of changing careers.
It might feel painful at first — to see your income significantly reduced because you’ve decided to pivot and change your course. In part, this is because you’re starting again at the bottom of the ladder — or partway up the ladder but on a different one.
Whatever your situation, sometimes, starting from the bottom and climbing in the right direction again is just want you need for your personal mental health, sanity, happiness, and sense of fulfillment.
The law of doing
There is no law of attraction. You can’t just think your way into the reality you want. You actually have to do something about it. The law of doing is a sure way to ensure that you move forward, and if it’s in the wrong direction, you’re assessing yourself and your trajectory often enough to change the sails and catch the right kind of wind.
And when there’s no wind, you know when to crack out the paddles and start rowing.
Whatever the case, to move forward in any direction other than the one you’re on, you need to do something.
It might be spending that extra hour after work at night picking up a new skill or booting up that side hustle that you eventually want to turn into a full-time gig.
It might be making time in the morning rather than sleeping in.
It might be cutting down on junk hours watching, scrolling, and binging on things to do what you need to do.
Whatever the case, the law of doing is pretty simple — do what you need to do in order to get to where you want to be.
The more you do, the less friction you have over time. The less friction you have, the faster you eventually move.
The right opportunities for you don’t just happen by themselves. It is a half bag mix of doing the right things to build up your personal skills, networks, and platforms in order to open up the right doors for you.
Figuring out yourself is also another major part of the equation and sometimes, we don’t get around to doing this until we’re halfway down a career.
But it’s better that you come to this realization than never at all. Your experiences gained in that particular domain may be transferrable or come in at a later date of your new career.
Whatever the case, change is required to get you down the path of coming into contact with the right opportunities. It’s the only sure way to architecture the reality you want.